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Hot FuckBook Update: Is “Romance” Attractive To Women?

Wednesday, January 6th, 2010

You’ve probably noticed that I don’t talk about
the idea of “romance” very often.

There’s a good reason for this and why fuckbook dating works.

I think that most guys use romance in
completely the wrong way, and in the process screw
up their chances with the woman that they are
interested in.

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I’m going to take some time here to talk about
my personal perspective on romance, how it is
misused, and how to use it to really make a woman
feel attracted to you.

Most fuckbook guys make one of two main mistakes when
trying to be “romantic”:

1) They try to use romance to CREATE attraction.

2) They use TOO MUCH romance, thinking that more
must be better.

Let me ask you this… What does romance mean
to you?

I’m serious. Think about it for a minute.

Does romance mean gifts and flower?

Does it mean fancy dinners?

Does it mean candles and soft music?

To me, romance is about showing a softer side
of yourself… a more thoughtful side… in a way
that is meant to INCREASE the woman’s attraction
for you.

Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to
use romance to CREATE attraction, or they do too
many things in an attempt to “be romantic”, and
the effect is lost.

Here’s a quiz:

In general, would a woman think you were more
romantic if you:

1) Brought her red roses every time you saw her.

2) Brought her one flower the fourth time you saw
her, but it was her favorite flower, in her
favorite color.

…???

Here’s another one…

In general, would a woman think you were more
romantic if you:

1) Took her to a fancy dinner every time you saw
her.

2) Didn’t take her to dinner, but one night cooked
her a favorite dish that your mom taught you and
told her the story of how it came to be a family
favorite?

Do you see where I’m going with these examples?

“Romance” is all about the context of the
situation. In other words, little things that are
thoughtful, used once in awhile will make FAR more
of an impact than trying to do everything you
possibly can all the time.

Have you ever seen a T. V. show or movie with a
girl holding a flower, pulling off each petal one
at a time and saying, “He loves me, he loves me
not”?

This is a famous cliche… even Madonna does it
in her old “Truth or Dare” movie.

What’s going on here? And why is it now such a
famous idea that it is almost universally known?

Because it strikes a chord inside of women
everywhere! Every woman can relate to the idea of
thinking about a man and wondering if he’s
thinking about her.

Pulling petals off of a flower and saying, “He
loves me, he loves me not”, is just another way of
saying, “I can’t stop thinking about this guy and
I’m going to keep thinking about him until I know
how he feels.”

As you know, if you’ve read past newsletters
and/or my ebook, I think that it’s important to
CREATE this kind of situation as much as humanly
possible.

Now, here’s where romance fits into the
puzzle… If you’re doing things that you consider
to be “romantic” all the time, then she has
nothing to wonder about… nothing to think
about… there is no challenge or mystery at all.

On the other hand, if you use romance more
carefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, so
to speak, then a small romantic gesture will cause
her to feel GREAT feelings of attraction inside…
and cause her to work even harder to get and keep
your attention – BECAUSE SHE’LL TRY HARDER TO GET
MORE OUT OF THIS ROMANTIC SIDE OF YOU!

So what are some things you can do, that women
see as romantic, without going overboard?

Well, if you want to do the typical things like
flowers, gifts, music, poetry, etc. then do as I
said earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Tease
her, bust on her, treat her like a bratty little
sister most of the time, then out of nowhere do
something thoughtful. But make sure to stay cool
when the emotional reaction comes!

She’s probably going to be very happy and want
to know “where that came from.” Just tell her that
you were thinking about her and move on to the
next topic. Don’t get all mushy, dude.

By the way, if you’ve gone out with a woman 47
times, and you don’t know if she likes you, and
you’re now thinking, “Oh, hey… great idea! I’ll
buy her a flower and she’ll feel attracted to
me…” then get a new idea.

Romance isn’t a way to make a woman feel
attracted to you.

Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that is
already happening.

Read that last part again… DON’T TRY TO MAKE
A WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTED TO YOU WITH ROMANCE!

Attraction is created by factors other than
gifts, dinners, flowers, etc.

If she’s not feeling attracted to you, then
showing her that you’re attracted to her probably
isn’t going to change it… in fact, it may just
push her away.

I know, I know… you once heard about a guy
who pursued a woman for 9 years until she finally
gave in and married him. Well, that might work,
but I don’t have 9 years (unless it’s Cindy
Crawford… yeah, I know she’s like 50, but she’s
STILL hot).

Earlier I mentioned a couple of great ideas.
You can cook her a special meal that has
meaning… and tell the story behind it. Stories
are romantic, especially if the story contains a
love story.

And small gifts can be romantic as well (I
don’t like big gifts because they change the
dynamic of the relationship and can create all
kinds of feelings that it’s a trade of affection
for money, etc.).

If you pay attention, a woman will mention
something that she really likes. It could be a
kind of flower, a kind of music, an author, etc.
If you want to be romantic (after you know that
she’s attracted to you) you can get something
thoughtful then write a card that says, “I was
thinking about you, and I found this… thought
you would like it. Kiss Kiss.”

Use romance as the spice, and not the main
dish. Use it to amplify, not as your main
strategy.

Romance combined with the techniques that I
teach is a VERY powerful combination.

QUICK NOTE: One of the most “romantic” things
you can possibly do is learn how to communicate
with women on a “sexual” level. There’s nothing as
powerful as using subtle communication to put a
woman into a VERY romantic mood.

HOW TO CREATE A SETTING THAT AUTOMATICALLY CREATES
AND AMPLIFIES ATTRACTION…

We just talked about how most guys either have
no clue about romance, or they use it too much…
which screws up everything for them.

There is one aspect of romance that I have
found very useful to know more about and use. It’s
the concept of how to create a SETTING that will
create more of a feeling of attraction inside of
the woman that you are with.

WARNING: What I’m about to share with you is
not a magic bullet. It’s no substitute for a
cocky, funny personality and great skills. Using
this alone will not make you successful with
women.

With that said… I’ve found that there are a
few things you can do in your immediate
environment to “accelerate the mood”, so to speak,
when you are with a woman.

Women have very active senses… usually much
more so than men.

If you have already sparked the attraction
between you and her, introducing certain sensory
stimulus will usually increase the attraction, and
can lead to a more, shall we say “physical”
demonstration of that attraction.

OK, let’s say that you’ve had a fun night out
with your girl (and of course, because you read
Double Your Dating you knew where to take her that
was fun and inexpensive) and you’re back at your
place. (Of course, she came inside because you
learned how to get her to come in from the book
too… right?)

And then you use the Kiss Test, which you
learned when you visited my web site… and you’ve
just kissed for the first time. Now what?

Well, most guys make the HUGE mistake of trying
to grope the poor girl… which, of course leads
to the inevitable “I think that we’re moving a
little fast. Let’s take things slower.”
(Translation: “None for you tonight, and if you
try that again, none for you anytime in the next
10 dates.”)

Instead, try this:

After that first kiss, pull back and look into
her eyes and say, “Yum.” Then stand up and say,
“Let me see if I can do something about this
setting” in a fun, smooth, kind-of suspenseful
tone of voice.

Here’s the recipe:

1) A few candles

2) Some incense

3) A glass of wine (if you both drink and are of
legal age)

4) Sade’s – Greatest Hits on low

I know it sounds simple, but let me explain the
recipe now that you know the ingredients.

Remember the formula “Two steps forward, one
step back” that I often talk about? Mix up these
ingredients with that concept… and VIOLA! More
and MORE AND MORE attraction.

You probably don’t need to learn how to light
candles, open wine, and play music. If you do,
refer to the instructions that come with the
products.

I personally like to introduce these as great
ways to interrupt the kissing (and whatever else
is going on).

Try this:

1) Kiss Kiss

2) “Let me see if I can do something about this
setting”

3) Light candles and incense, lower lighting

4) Kiss Kiss

5) Open wine and put on ‘Sade’

6) Kiss Kiss

7) Watch out… because something good is about to
happen.

Here’s what’s going on in her mind:

“Oh, we’re kissing. I’d better not let this go
too far.”

“What? Why did he stop kissing me? Oh, candles.
I love candles…”

“Wow, this is turning into a make-out session,
maybe I’d better put on the brakes.”

“What? Why did he stop again?”

“Ohhh, I LOVE ‘Sade’. Her voice is so sexy. And
this wine is nice. Hmm, I wonder why he isn’t
trying to jump my bones. Maybe he doesn’t think
I’m a good kisser. Maybe he changed his mind. Well
I’m not going to let that happen. I’ll show
him…”

Do you get it?

By simultaneously creating tension while making
the setting more and more ‘romantic’, you will
stir up her ATTRACTION towards you and make her be
the one who ultimately gets so worked up that she
can’t help but have you.

Nice.

Of course there are many other things you can
do that are romantic.   Like sprinkling rose petals
on the bed, pulling out some Godiva chocolate, or
lighting up the fire and grabbing a blankie (make
sure you don’t bring out your teddy-bear from when
you were a kid… that might not go over too
well).

It’s really up to you.

The key is to use these things sparingly, and
use them with the concepts that you’ve already
learned to AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION that you’ve
already created with your COMMUNICATION.

So fuckbook members, remember, use these things with women who
are ALREADY feeling the attraction, not to create
it!

So… you like what you’re hearing?

So… you want to learn more?

So… you want to learn how to take control of
this entire area of romance and sexuality with
women?

My newest program is called “Power Sexuality”.

I waited a long time to create this program. It
was an intense project.

After several years of teaching guys how to be
more successful with women and dating, I realized
that there was a kind of “root problem” that was
at the heart of many challenges men face.

Some men will describe this problem as a lack
of “Sexual Confidence”.

And it’s more than just not knowing what to do
in the bedroom.

It’s about learning to get in touch with that
part of yourself that’s been “pushed down” for so
many years… and to enjoy it.

FuckBook Update: Communicating With Women On A “Sexual” Level

Friday, December 25th, 2009

When I first started learning how to make fuckbook women
feel ATTRACTION, one of the things that I learned
is that there is a different level or LANGUAGE
that you must know how to “speak.”

If you don’t know how to “speak” this language,
then NOTHING you do will work. In fact, I now
believe that most women know whether or not you
can speak this particular “language” within
SECONDS of first meeting you.

So, what is this language and how can you learn
how to “speak it?”

I thought you’d never ask…

I call this language “Sexual Communication.”

It’s the language of ATTRACTION.

It’s a combination of flirting, creating
“sexual tension” and “chemistry”, and knowing how
to smoothly take things from one step to the
next… on a PHYSICAL level.

FuckBook Update: That Get Women To Pick YOU Up

Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009

I was amazed when I first realized that you
could actually find a girl on fuckbook, turn the tables around, pretend
that you’re trying to “resist her advances,” and
make fun of her for trying to “put the moves on
you”… and wind up having the woman you’re
talking to actually start feeling attracted to you
as a result.

It really is amazing.

Now, I know that a lot of guys hear this
approach and think, “Yeah, right. There’s no way
that just pretending that a woman is pursuing you
will MAKE her pursue you”…

But this isn’t just any old common way of
“pretending.”

What you’re doing here is a very special, Cocky
& Funny, flirty, engaging way of pretending.

I’m sure you’ve watched the Discovery Channel,
and seen animals “play-fighting.” It’s common
among young animals in particular.

Now, how do animals know that it’s only “play,”
as opposed to “real” fighting?

I mean, have you ever seen the way some
animals, like lion cubs and wolf pups jump on and
bite each other?

It certainly LOOKS like real fighting.

But it’s not… it’s play.

Well there’s a very similar thing that happens
when you flirt with a woman using the Cocky &
Funny technique… and when you use this further
to pretend that she’s trying to “pick you up” and
you’re “resisting her advances.”

You have to use just a LITTLE EXTRA drama.

You have to be a little “overly suspicious”
with your tone.

You have to act just a little too serious and
offended.

These little cues, along with a good sense of
humor and timing are the hints and triggers that
make a woman instantly switch into “Oh, this is
play” mode, instead of behaving as if you’re a
loser who has no imagination.

There are some other key benefits as well, as
you mentioned above, when you’re using this
approach.

One is that you don’t come across as nervous or
intimidated. The fact that you’re turning the
tables around, having fun, and acting like you’re
something special sends the message that you’re
totally cool, calm, and comfortable in your own
skin… and, in fact, you’re SO comfortable that
you’re going to go immediately to “play” mode.

Another is that it gives you a “character role”
to play that is the OPPOSITE of being a WUSS. This
is handy, as most guys switch quickly into Wuss
mode when they start talking to an attractive
woman.

Finally, it gives you all kinds of great ways
to end the interaction…

You can say:

“OK, well I’m not going to give you my number,
but you can write down your email for me, and
maybe I’ll get back to you sometime…” etc.

It even makes taking things to the next level
easy and charming, because you’re “resisting
forward.”

A quick personal story:

I was at Hooters Restaurant yesterday afternoon
with a friend, and the waitress approached us to
get our order.

She walked over and said something like, “Hi,
can I get you something to drink?” etc.

I pretended not to notice her, and kept talking
to my friend.

Then, as she finished asking the question, I
turned to her with a surprised and “fake offended”
look on my face and said, “Oh, that’s OK, I was
just TALKING” (as if she had interrupted me).

She opened her mouth with the “Oh, no you
didn’t! I can’t believe you just said that” look.

I shook my head at her.

Then my friend looked at her and said, “Wow,
you’re very forward. Next thing she’s going to be
asking for your phone number.”

I shook my head at her again, and rolled my
eyes.

We gave her the drink order, and she went away.

She came back a few minutes later to tell me
that my drink was going to be delayed, because
they were making some kind of change in the
kitchen.

Of course, I threw up my hands in despair,
rolled my eyes at her, and shook my head (as if
she was disappointing me horribly).

She laughed and said, “Hey, you’d better watch
out, I might have to ask you for your phone
number”…

THAT FAST.

We had talked for a grand total of about a
minute, and she was already joking around about
asking me for my number.

Keep in mind, this is a HOOTERS waitress (and a
cute one, at that). She works in an environment
where hundreds of guys try to pick up on her, one
after the other…

Now, as you can imagine, this kind of thing
happens all the time when I interact with
waitresses, etc. I’ve found that it’s no harder to
get a waitress to give you her email/number than
it is to get any other girl’s info, by the way.

What’s the secret?

Being playful, fun, different, Cocky & Funny,
and not acting like a Wuss who wants to call her
100 times a day and tell her how pretty she is.

Here’s your question again:

“…SOMETIMES when I throw out a cocky+funny
response, they will say “Oh whatever!” or roll
their eyes or say you’re mean, get mad, or
something like that and walk away. This happens
not often but on rare occasions. These women are
probably uptight anyways and not worth getting
know. When they say “whatever” or “You’re so mean”
and they’re laughing or smiling, and they still
keep talking to me, then I know it’s working.
Also, when you say something like: “…Oh quit
lying, you were just walking near me because you
want me” and they say “No, I don’t want you” or
“No
I wasn’t, I was just doing _ _ _ _ _” in a semi-
serious tone, how do you respond to that to keep
the cocky+funny going? In other words, what do you
do when they act as if they ARENT picking you
up?…”

What I’m about to tell you is sometimes hard
for guys to accept, so get ready.

SOME PEOPLE DON’T HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.

No, really.

My guess is that something like 60%-80% of the
population just plain aren’t very interesting or
fun to talk to.

Some people are actually ARROGANT about their
lack of a sense of humor.

These are my personal favorites.

I remember meeting a girl at a bar a couple of
years ago.

I was in Hollywood, CA at a fancy bar, and she
was one of these “I’m a beautiful actress, and I
know it” types.

I was ordering a drink, and she bumped into me.

I turned and said, “Don’t touch me!”

She just looked at me with a “You’re a jerk”
look, and leaned away from me.

I smiled at her and said, “It was a joke, it’s
OK” (with kind of a slightly sarcastic “you didn’t
get it” tone of voice).

She said something like, “Well, it wasn’t
funny. You seem like an arrogant jerk.”

LOL!

I couldn’t help myself… I burst into
laughter.

She, of course, got even more annoyed.

Now, most guys would have gotten all upset,
thought that they must have done something majorly
wrong, and tried to apologize and get the woman to
like them.

I immediately recognized this girl as a person
who just plain doesn’t have a sharp sense of
humor, and who is probably a HUGE pain in the ass
to deal with in real life… so I laughed at her.

You’ll notice that a lot of guys write in to
the Mailbags with questions like, “I’m dating four
women right now, and they’re all wonderful, but
there’s this ONE girl that I just can’t get… how
do I make the one that isn’t interested LIKE me?”

This is a curious thing.

We humans always want the approval of the
person who doesn’t want to give it to us.

Instead of just walking away and saying, “your
loss,” we often chase after them, begging and
pleading for their approval… and thinking that
we must have done something wrong.

Remember, some people actually ENJOY making
other people feel bad. Some women actually ENJOY
rejecting men. It gives them a feeling of power.

There are MANY women who will spend all week
shopping, two hours putting on their clothing and
makeup (and doing their hair), just to go out and
get attention from men… so they can reject those
men, and complain to their friends about what
“losers” and “pigs” men are, and how they hate it
when men look at them like a “piece of meat.”

Go figure.

Let me give you a little “tough love.”

Part of growing up, becoming a REAL MAN, and
getting this area of your life handled is
realizing that not all women are nice people, and
not letting those that aren’t nice AFFECT YOU.

You can reach a point in your life where your
attitude should become “I do not give anyone
permission to take my joy, happiness, and good
mood away from me.”

When you get to this point, then IT DOESN’T
MATTER if a woman doesn’t respond positively to
your approach.

It doesn’t matter if she rejects you.

It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t have a sense
of humor.

None of this matters when you don’t give anyone
permission to TAKE YOUR JOY AWAY FROM YOU.

My advice: Learn to walk away. Learn to blow it
off. Learn how to IMMEDIATELY disconnect and
detach from these types of situations, and NOT let
them affect you.

The “numbers game” goes both ways.

If you start meeting a lot of women, you will,
by nature of meeting a LOT of women, meet quite a
few that don’t have a sense of humor, aren’t
friendly, aren’t available, etc.

You need to learn the skill of keeping your
power and joy for yourself, and NEVER giving it to
someone you don’t even know.

Make a decision right now that your joy is your
own, and that you’ll never allow another person to
take it away from you.

Dude, someone give me a hug.

Your “Irrational Fear” Of Approaching Women

Saturday, December 19th, 2009

Intense fuckbook stuff.

The fact is that most guys DO feel an intense,
irrational, uncontrollable FEAR when we even
THINK about approaching a woman.

I personally think that the PAIN of the fear
combined with the PAIN of not being able to
control it… combined with the PAIN of it not
making ANY sense at all… can really effect
a guy’s self image and self esteem.

And it only compounds and intensifies over
time. Years and years of this can eventually
lead to serious emotional problems, as you
might well know.

The reason I spent so much time going over
the FEAR aspect of approaching women… and
taking time to not only explain how and why
it’s happening, but also how to get PAST that
stuff… is because if you don’t get it and
then get past it… it can literally CONTROL
YOUR LIFE.

Now, what I REALLY liked in your email was
your comment about watching me interact
LIVE with women on stage.

As you can see, I actually “walk my talk,”
and the attitudes and concepts I talk about
in my programs are REAL. They’re how I live
my life… and how I communicate.

There were some great moments in that
conversation. When you say that you saw me
do some “covert” stuff, I don’t actually
know what you’re talking about… but I’m
flattered that you think I’m that cool and
sophisticated!