I was amazed when I first realized that you
could actually find a girl on fuckbook, turn the tables around, pretend
that you’re trying to “resist her advances,” and
make fun of her for trying to “put the moves on
you”… and wind up having the woman you’re
talking to actually start feeling attracted to you
as a result.
It really is amazing.
Now, I know that a lot of guys hear this
approach and think, “Yeah, right. There’s no way
that just pretending that a woman is pursuing you
will MAKE her pursue you”…
But this isn’t just any old common way of
What you’re doing here is a very special, Cocky
& Funny, flirty, engaging way of pretending.
I’m sure you’ve watched the Discovery Channel,
and seen animals “play-fighting.” It’s common
among young animals in particular.
Now, how do animals know that it’s only “play,”
as opposed to “real” fighting?
I mean, have you ever seen the way some
animals, like lion cubs and wolf pups jump on and
bite each other?
It certainly LOOKS like real fighting.
But it’s not… it’s play.
Well there’s a very similar thing that happens
when you flirt with a woman using the Cocky &
Funny technique… and when you use this further
to pretend that she’s trying to “pick you up” and
you’re “resisting her advances.”
You have to use just a LITTLE EXTRA drama.
You have to be a little “overly suspicious”
with your tone.
You have to act just a little too serious and
These little cues, along with a good sense of
humor and timing are the hints and triggers that
make a woman instantly switch into “Oh, this is
play” mode, instead of behaving as if you’re a
loser who has no imagination.
There are some other key benefits as well, as
you mentioned above, when you’re using this
One is that you don’t come across as nervous or
intimidated. The fact that you’re turning the
tables around, having fun, and acting like you’re
something special sends the message that you’re
totally cool, calm, and comfortable in your own
skin… and, in fact, you’re SO comfortable that
you’re going to go immediately to “play” mode.
Another is that it gives you a “character role”
to play that is the OPPOSITE of being a WUSS. This
is handy, as most guys switch quickly into Wuss
mode when they start talking to an attractive
Finally, it gives you all kinds of great ways
to end the interaction…
You can say:
“OK, well I’m not going to give you my number,
but you can write down your email for me, and
maybe I’ll get back to you sometime…” etc.
It even makes taking things to the next level
easy and charming, because you’re “resisting
A quick personal story:
I was at Hooters Restaurant yesterday afternoon
with a friend, and the waitress approached us to
get our order.
She walked over and said something like, “Hi,
can I get you something to drink?” etc.
I pretended not to notice her, and kept talking
to my friend.
Then, as she finished asking the question, I
turned to her with a surprised and “fake offended”
look on my face and said, “Oh, that’s OK, I was
just TALKING” (as if she had interrupted me).
She opened her mouth with the “Oh, no you
didn’t! I can’t believe you just said that” look.
I shook my head at her.
Then my friend looked at her and said, “Wow,
you’re very forward. Next thing she’s going to be
asking for your phone number.”
I shook my head at her again, and rolled my
We gave her the drink order, and she went away.
She came back a few minutes later to tell me
that my drink was going to be delayed, because
they were making some kind of change in the
Of course, I threw up my hands in despair,
rolled my eyes at her, and shook my head (as if
she was disappointing me horribly).
She laughed and said, “Hey, you’d better watch
out, I might have to ask you for your phone
We had talked for a grand total of about a
minute, and she was already joking around about
asking me for my number.
Keep in mind, this is a HOOTERS waitress (and a
cute one, at that). She works in an environment
where hundreds of guys try to pick up on her, one
after the other…
Now, as you can imagine, this kind of thing
happens all the time when I interact with
waitresses, etc. I’ve found that it’s no harder to
get a waitress to give you her email/number than
it is to get any other girl’s info, by the way.
What’s the secret?
Being playful, fun, different, Cocky & Funny,
and not acting like a Wuss who wants to call her
100 times a day and tell her how pretty she is.
Here’s your question again:
“…SOMETIMES when I throw out a cocky+funny
response, they will say “Oh whatever!” or roll
their eyes or say you’re mean, get mad, or
something like that and walk away. This happens
not often but on rare occasions. These women are
probably uptight anyways and not worth getting
know. When they say “whatever” or “You’re so mean”
and they’re laughing or smiling, and they still
keep talking to me, then I know it’s working.
Also, when you say something like: “…Oh quit
lying, you were just walking near me because you
want me” and they say “No, I don’t want you” or
I wasn’t, I was just doing _ _ _ _ _” in a semi-
serious tone, how do you respond to that to keep
the cocky+funny going? In other words, what do you
do when they act as if they ARENT picking you
What I’m about to tell you is sometimes hard
for guys to accept, so get ready.
SOME PEOPLE DON’T HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.
My guess is that something like 60%-80% of the
population just plain aren’t very interesting or
fun to talk to.
Some people are actually ARROGANT about their
lack of a sense of humor.
These are my personal favorites.
I remember meeting a girl at a bar a couple of
I was in Hollywood, CA at a fancy bar, and she
was one of these “I’m a beautiful actress, and I
know it” types.
I was ordering a drink, and she bumped into me.
I turned and said, “Don’t touch me!”
She just looked at me with a “You’re a jerk”
look, and leaned away from me.
I smiled at her and said, “It was a joke, it’s
OK” (with kind of a slightly sarcastic “you didn’t
get it” tone of voice).
She said something like, “Well, it wasn’t
funny. You seem like an arrogant jerk.”
I couldn’t help myself… I burst into
She, of course, got even more annoyed.
Now, most guys would have gotten all upset,
thought that they must have done something majorly
wrong, and tried to apologize and get the woman to
I immediately recognized this girl as a person
who just plain doesn’t have a sharp sense of
humor, and who is probably a HUGE pain in the ass
to deal with in real life… so I laughed at her.
You’ll notice that a lot of guys write in to
the Mailbags with questions like, “I’m dating four
women right now, and they’re all wonderful, but
there’s this ONE girl that I just can’t get… how
do I make the one that isn’t interested LIKE me?”
This is a curious thing.
We humans always want the approval of the
person who doesn’t want to give it to us.
Instead of just walking away and saying, “your
loss,” we often chase after them, begging and
pleading for their approval… and thinking that
we must have done something wrong.
Remember, some people actually ENJOY making
other people feel bad. Some women actually ENJOY
rejecting men. It gives them a feeling of power.
There are MANY women who will spend all week
shopping, two hours putting on their clothing and
makeup (and doing their hair), just to go out and
get attention from men… so they can reject those
men, and complain to their friends about what
“losers” and “pigs” men are, and how they hate it
when men look at them like a “piece of meat.”
Let me give you a little “tough love.”
Part of growing up, becoming a REAL MAN, and
getting this area of your life handled is
realizing that not all women are nice people, and
not letting those that aren’t nice AFFECT YOU.
You can reach a point in your life where your
attitude should become “I do not give anyone
permission to take my joy, happiness, and good
mood away from me.”
When you get to this point, then IT DOESN’T
MATTER if a woman doesn’t respond positively to
It doesn’t matter if she rejects you.
It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t have a sense
None of this matters when you don’t give anyone
permission to TAKE YOUR JOY AWAY FROM YOU.
My advice: Learn to walk away. Learn to blow it
off. Learn how to IMMEDIATELY disconnect and
detach from these types of situations, and NOT let
them affect you.
The “numbers game” goes both ways.
If you start meeting a lot of women, you will,
by nature of meeting a LOT of women, meet quite a
few that don’t have a sense of humor, aren’t
friendly, aren’t available, etc.
You need to learn the skill of keeping your
power and joy for yourself, and NEVER giving it to
someone you don’t even know.
Make a decision right now that your joy is your
own, and that you’ll never allow another person to
take it away from you.
Dude, someone give me a hug.